This is a difficult situation. Divorces are so stressful that people often find themselves so blinded by rage and dislike for the other party that it is difficult to be reasonable at all.

Why won’t he sign? Have you stopped to hear the real reason? If you’ve jumped into this and surprised him, perhaps it’s worth taking a separation first or trying to get some counselling to see how the land lies. Have you considered that he might feel that he’s going to lose everything? The kids, the house, the car, the cat? Consider that for a moment before you get nasty.

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